Opportunities not expectations.
Welcome to my first blog post here at My Life Is For Living.
It may seem a little backwards starting a blog at the end of the year, but it’s something I’ve been thinking about for a while now, so I thought, why not? After a lot of deliberation, I decided to bite the bullet and create a space where I can share more about my lifestyle, my philosophy and myself with others. Who knows where this will take me. But if not now, then when?
So can you expect to see at My Life Is For Living?
1. Rambles – a space to share my thoughts about all things big and small.
2. Recipes – a space to share my passion for getting creative in the kitchen.
3. People – a space to share about those who inspire me and help me to be who I am today.
4. Places – a space to share about my favourite places, whether local to home, or further afield.
5. Products - a space to share about things that nourish and add meaning to my life.
6. Yoga – a space to share about my yoga journey, past and present.
So here goes…
The end of 2016, The End of a year of expectations.
Like for many others, the past year has been a real roller coaster. From extreme highs, to extreme lows, it seems to have flown by in a flash. It sounds cliché, but I’ve met some truly incredible people, experienced many a joyful moment, and have learnt so much about myself. However, it’s not all been plain sailing. There have been many low and very challenging moments, some of which I still face on a day-to-day basis. I’ve thought long and hard about these moments and have slowly realised that a lot of the undesirable moments in my life are due to expectations. Expectations from myself, expectations from others, and expectations from society.
Ultimately, expectations only increase the pressure you put on yourself. And where does this pressure get you? Yes, to some degree, pressure can be helpful, but it certainty shouldn’t be the one and only thing that dictates your life. Pressure can be destructive. It can ensue guilt, fear, and a whole wave of negative emotions. Instead, what you do, and why you do it, is more constructive when it comes from within. Expectations need to be quietened to give space for the inner wanderer to grow.
This is why I’ve decided to start 2017 as a year of opportunities. Instead of putting pressure on myself to fulfil the expectations of both others, and myself, I’m opening myself up to new opportunities in order to embrace whatever may come my way.
I challenge you to think about the expectations that surround you. Who puts those expectations in place and can any of these expectations be changed? Are you giving yourself enough space to embrace new opportunities? And are there any opportunities you’d like to encourage as the year progresses?
So, I’ve chosen to think about the New Year in terms of opportunities, rather than resolutions (ultimately driven by unrealistic expectations). Here are a few of the opportunities I’d like to embrace as 2017 progresses.
· Opportunities for self-growth:
o To read more: I used to love reading as a child, and find so much pleasure in learning from others. However, life’s daily pressures make me feel like there is just ‘never enough time’ to actually give my wholehearted attention to read anything properly. It seems ridiculous, I know, but unfortunately it’s the truth. So whether it is a book, journal, blog, or the daily news, I’d like to take the time to read more from the many enriching sources that surround me.
o To meet new people: I’m blessed to know so many incredible people, some of whom I’ve only met recently, some of whom I’ve known for many years. I’d like to spend more time with those I know already and I’d like to open myself up to opportunities to meet new people. I believe social connections are incredibly powerful and beneficial for our wellbeing.
· Opportunities for self-love.
o To develop a daily yoga practice: Yoga has become my safe haven and deep down I know how beneficial a daily practice could be. Whether it is a 20-minute relaxation in savasana, or a dynamic flow to start the day, I’d like to learn how to listen to my body and to feel satisfied with whatever it needs at that moment.
o To carry out 365 days of gratitude: I plan to see 2017 as a year in which I can remind myself of the many things for which I am grateful for. To do this, I hope to note down one thought each day, whether big, or ever so small, and collect these thoughts in a jar. Negatively biased thoughts can be ever so strong, so instead of focusing on these negatives, I wish to use 2017 as a year to explore the many positives that enrich my life.
Thank you for taking the time to stop by and read my first post. I’d love to know your thoughts, or anything in particular you would like me to write about. Please feel free to comment below, drop me an email, or message me on social media.
Until next time,